“he had developed "resilience" to handle the pressures he faced

“he was running on pressure with fear from being exposed as 'fake'!

“He worried that even as changing social values made life better for LGBTQ+ people, the struggles past generations had endured for recognition and respect could be wiped from memory, along with the pain caused by the AIDS pandemic

“he wasn't stressed or sad

“In Great and Unfortunate Things , we see how Arday went from being nonverbal as a child and illiterate until he was eighteen to scaling unimag-inable [sic] heights as an adult. Without romanticizing the struggle, this is a story of determination against seemingly insurmountable odds—and of a family and a small group of believers whose compassion helped him see what is possible.

“I can see that his life is so hard. Like he gets strong illnesses and even right now he's so slim,

“That then starts to impact on motivation and your actual confidence. It goes back to the confidence again of, 'I've got to go again, make sure I don't make a mistake, still want to get to this tournament or have this match'. It's a very real feeling that everybody would go through.

“One of the challenges that referees face at every level is actually understanding the challenges that we face. Fear of making mistakes, external opinion, spectators, managers, parents, media, colleagues. All these things feed into creating self-doubt, lacking confidence, and then things can spiral out of control and you lose the ability to actually have any confidence in what you're doing on the field.